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Thursday, March 31, 2005

BALANCE



Just like my new responsibilities at work, being in a long-distance relationship was harder than I thought. I think Jay and I are pretty much equipped with the tools in maintaining one (don't ya just love technology?):



Broadband access- check
Yahoo Messenger- check
Skype- check
VOIP- check
Jay's Globe sim with International roaming- check
digital photos- check
webcam- I should have one in a few weeks



While Jay and I make use of all these things to compensate for not being physically together (yet), it still does not suffice. The 16-hour time difference is a major setback. Whenever I'm at home, he's at work and whenever he's at home, I'm at work and we all still need to sleep, right? So we both try to spend every waking minute keeping in touch, by whatever means possible.




In effect, I have turned into some sort of hermit. I haven't been going out on weekdays and weekends (gasp!). If you also noticed, I haven't been climbing as often as I used to. The last movie I saw in a theatre was "Kung Fu Hustle", which was shown ages ago. I've given myself a 10pm curfew so I can catch Jay online as soon as he wakes up. I haven't seen my friends in a long while (you guys will be amazed at how much weight I've put on. Charo says its because I'm happy and inlove--which is true). The closest thing I have to a "gimmick" now are my after-work trips to the Starbucks near my office, where the baristas, security guards and even janitor now know me by name and by drink. Thank God, I have wonderful, wonderful friends who understand the situation I am in (sa mga nagtatampo, wag na kayo magtampo).



Thing is, eversince I took over the CS department, work has been really hectic, giving me very little time to talk to Jay. I used to be able to get the work done while talking to him but lately, it is just not possible. And he's been really busy at work as well. The timing is just absolutely impeccable, I tell you.



I did not want to admit this but the stress from work and the erratic sleeping schedule may be taking its toll on my mood. I mean, when you spend an average of 40 hours a week listening to complaints of people from thousands of miles away, I guess you can't help but be pretty upset yourself. And to tell you the truth, when I get off work, the first thing I think of is Jay and how much I wish I was off to meet him somewhere so he can just hug me and make me feel better. But well, you guys know thats not the case.



In effect, I've been really cranky whenever I talk to Jay. THINK month-long PMS. Yeah, thaaaat baaaadd. It's like I threw my sense of humor out the window because I suddenly found myself taking everything so seriously, making mountains out of molehills. Things that didn't bother me before irk me more than ever now. And I really have to hand it to him, I've never been and seen anyone with as much patience as my guy. He put up with the bitchiness and the moods and not once did he ever blow his top off like I did. And what's even more is amazing is that he knew the right buttons to push to get me in a better mood.



But then of course, even the most patient, most understanding and most loving of people come to a point where they can say that they've had the last straw.



And that's pretty much what happened the other day. I went on a 24-hour i-will-find-something-wrong-with-everything-and-there's-nothing-you-can-say-or-do-to-make-it-better frenzy and he just had it. And for the first time ever, he actually got mad. Can't really blame him.



I talked to my uncle about it and what he said really struck me, "Take your work out on your work." That's a pretty valuable lesson I learned this week. And besides, I really don't want to lose sight of what really matters in my life: my family, my friends and Jay.



And so I made 2 promises to myself this week:



1. To never let my problems and pressures at work interfere with my personal life.
2. To not make the same mistake I made with my other relationships: letting my world revolve around them. I vowed to balance my time between my family, my friends and Jay. Just because Jay is 6800 miles away, doesn't mean that I have to act and make other people feel like I am too, right?



Of course, we've made up (I wish I could say that we kissed and made up but...).



And did I mention that I feel like the luckiest girl in the world to have someone who loves me this much? We've been together for about 2 months now (seems like only yesterday...) and I fall inlove with him all over again every single day. I really cannot wait for us to be really together.



*sigh* Happiness still abounds!

Bunny @ Thursday, March 31, 2005
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Thursday, March 24, 2005

'NUFF SAID.






Pink A








Make your own. Spell with flicker.



Bunny @ Thursday, March 24, 2005
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FUNNY!



Click on this link and find out why. Hehehehe!

Bunny @ Thursday, March 24, 2005
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Tuesday, March 22, 2005

INTERVIEW BOO-BOOS!!!



I spent almost 5 hours yesterday interviewing about 8-10 applicants HR forwarded to me. We're adding more people in the team and we need a number of new people on board by April 1st.



These are snippets from a couple of my interviews:



Me: So, what do you think makes a good customer service representative?
Applicant: You have to be a very hardworking.
Me: *pause* (waiting for a word after "hardworking")
Applicant: And you need to have a very very long patient.
Me: (to myself: The job is for a customer service rep..not a doctor but even then, why would a doctor need a long patient?)
Me: Do you think you have all those qualities?
Applicant: I think I am having those qualities.
Me: *smile* Great!



What I didn't tell her was that we also needed people who could speak good English. I wouldn't want the company's clients to be confused with her grammar. Hehehe! Apart from that, I really didn't feel like she was right so I didn't forward her resume to my GM. Next applicant, please!



I actually like this next girl I'm going to talk about. I like the way she thinks (strikes me as analytical), she seems to be very hardworking and she asks questions, which I always find a good thing because it means that she's really interested. And she has very good customer service background, plus we can actually afford her (Just because CS Reps are soo in demand right now, most of the applicants I've screened think they have every right to jack-up their rates even when they've only had a few months experience). My only problem with this girl was that her diction wasn't that good, she had trouble speaking in straight english and she needed a lot of help with her grammar. I figured those things can always be worked on and I really liked her attitude and thought she deserved a shot at the job. Right before I ended my interview with her, I said,



Me: Oh by the way, do you have trouble speaking in straight english?
Applicant: Ma'am, I don't. I come from *[insert name of University] and if I don't speak good english, they will condemn me!
Me: *smiles* Okay.... *smiles*



Hahahahahaha!!!! Funny, eh?



*Name of University withheld because I know that some readers of this blog are from that University and well, you know what I mean... :)

Bunny @ Tuesday, March 22, 2005
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Thursday, March 17, 2005



Hi, my name is Tashi. I am a full-bred Lhasa Apso. My name means "good fortune" in Tibet, where my ancestors come from. I just turned 3 last March 4. But in human years, I'm almost as old as my Mommy (she's turning 26 next month). As you can see, I am in dire need of a haircut and my mom has promised to schedule an appointment with my hairdresser, or in this case, furdresser sometime this week. I do have pretty eyes, you just can't see them with the hippie look I've got on right now. I was wondering if you can help me look for a partner. Yes, please set me up. I am still a virgin but I can tell you right now that I have experience in humping pillows and once in a blue moon, I'd go for someone's leg. Practice makes perfect, they say. So believe me when I say that my future lover will not be disappointed.



Hehehehe! Ain't he cute?

Bunny @ Thursday, March 17, 2005
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Wednesday, March 16, 2005

My relationship with my mother has been improving lately. Nowadays, I am slowly finding myself conversing with her in almost the same way I talk to my Uncle. I now feel like she values my opinions, that she really takes into consideration the things that I say, unlike before where I would feel like a robot who she expected to succumb to her every command and agree with her every single time. For the first time in my life, I feel like my mom has FINALLY accepted the fact that I am a totally different individual despite the fact that I came out of her womb 25 years ago.



And because my mom and I are getting closer now, I've been able to talk to her about Jay (which is really a first for me since I don't really talk about my relationships with my parents). She has even asked me if I really love this guy who is 6800 miles away and naturally, I told her I did.



Anyhoo, I emailed her a couple of Jay's pictures the other day just so she can put a face to the name. My email was short and sweet: "Hi Ma! Here are a couple of Jason's pictures. Ain't he cute?"



I received a reply today and it made me laugh.



Hi Bunny,



Yes, he's cute and tall. Hope the two of you will click. Take care of your face and try to lose weight. Or else your cellulites will show. 'Wag kang magpabuntis ha!. Love you and take care of yourself and your sisters.



Mama



My mom is suddenly this paranoid woman who thinks all her daughters will get pregnant. hehehe! And wait a minute, take care of my face? lose weight? is she trying to tell me I'm ugly? Guess some things never change. She's still my #1 critic.



HAHAHAHAHA!

Bunny @ Wednesday, March 16, 2005
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Monday, March 14, 2005

YES, I'M STILL ALIVE.



My new job is taking too much of my time. I don't know shit about it as I am now with a completely different department and I am still learning the ropes. Taking this job was more difficult than I thought and the president of the company and my GM wants a lot of things done and I'm just going out of my mind because like I said earlier, I'm still learning. Anyway, I had a couple of blog entries saved on my drafts folder but never got around to finishing them coz I've been soooooo busy.



I miss you guys. :)



On top of my new job, there's also my sister's pregnancy which is driving my mom crazy. And naturally, being the eldest, I have transformed into my mother's very own sounding board. My mom wants my sister to get married. Your typical I-dont-want-my-grandchild-to-be-illegitimate kind of story. My sister, on the other hand, doesn't want to get married...at least not yet. My Uncle, my Mom, Jay and I have been debating/dicussing about this issue for weeks now. The 2 of them agree with my mother. As for me, well, let's just say I'm supporting my sister's decision to not get hitched yet.



mar·riage
Pronunciation: 'mar-ij
Function: noun
1 : the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a legal, consensual, and contractual relationship recognized and sanctioned by and dissolvable only by law —see also DIVORCE
2 : the ceremony containing certain legal formalities by which a marriage relationship is created



Ah...consensual.



I've seen this happen a million times to friends and acquaintances. Girl gets pregnant, parents force the couple to get married to save the family's "name" and "reputation". And admit it, a big percentage of these we-got-married-because-I-got-pregnant marriages don't really work. Know why? Because it wasn't CONSENSUAL. Fine, let's give them credit for TRYING TO MAKE IT WORK but it's not like in the U.S. where you can easily get a divorce in the event your marriage screws up. In this country, there's no divorce. Yes, you can get an annulment but the church will not grant you one just because of your irreconcilable differences. It's such a hassle and its soooo expensive to get one that most couples just get separated. And while being separated means that you're no longer together, technically, you are still married and you should still carry your husband's last name which therefore makes it impossible for you to remarry if you eventually find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.



And that's why my other sisters and I are respecting my sister's decision to not get married yet (my attempts at trying to convince my mom to support her have been futile). Because to me, marriage is a decision between 2 people in a relationship. It is not a decision that is made for them by their parents. It is not something that you force down a couple's throats. To me, marriage is something really sacred, how it all happened is a beautiful story that I want to tell my kids and my grandkids. Marriage should be not be some form of punishment for doing something you weren't exactly ready for yet. It's bad enough that they got themselves into this. You shouldn't try to cover up another mistake with another mistake.



And besides, all kids should be treated as blessings. It was my aunt who told me the other day that, "Maybe this is God's way of replacing what was lost (pertaining to my Dad, who I am so sure would have been absolutely ecstatic at the thought of being a Grandpa soon)".



You know what's sad though? Hearing my younger sisters say, "We don't want Ate Marby to get married because her marriage might end up being like Mama's and Papa's".



I don't know if "traumatized" is the word but I guess that after how many years of being a witness to how our parents couldn't stand each other, you can't really blame us for feeling this way. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm sure my parents had good times together...its just that, well, it's a little sad that they stayed together for us because I remember often wishing that they would just separate so they could both be happy. You know what I mean...



Anyhoo, I'm praying things turn out well...it should be. Hopefully, I'll get to blog more this week.



Speaking of marriages, I wanna give a big (albeit BELATED) birthday greeting to Junnie whose marriage I completely admire (Just read how he rushed back to Canada to come home to his wife in time for his birthday). I hope I find someone who will love me as much as you love your wife (I am praying that the "someone" I am talking about is Jay. Cross your fingers for me, Junnie! Hehe!)! And hopefully, we'll get to travel a lot too! Hope your birthday was a blast, Junnie (well, i'm pretty sure it was)! Thanks for 3 years of online friendship!!! *hugs*



Have a wonderful week, everyone!

Bunny @ Monday, March 14, 2005
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Saturday, March 05, 2005

JUST TO SHOW YOU HOW EXCITED WE ARE ABOUT THE BABY



That pacifier looking thing is actually candy which I bought for my preggy sis. But of course, me and my other sisters ending up eating most of it. Hahahahaha!
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Bunny @ Saturday, March 05, 2005
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Wednesday, March 02, 2005

A BLESSING



I discovered something the other day that I took as a sign to stay in the country this year. Actually, I do have to stay in the country for another year because I just accepted a job offer from my GM to head the customer service department and I promised my GM that I would stay on the job for a year. I didn't want to take it at first but it was a choice between being complacent with the position I was holding or being challenged to take something that's a little messed up and giving it a facelift. And the challenge of being able to turn things around just haunted me. I didn't want to end up regretting not facing it--so I took the job. A day into the new position and I can already feel the pressure. It seems like everyone has high expectations. Yikes!



The other reason why I have to stay in the country for another year is...



There will be a beautiful baby arriving sometime in November.



And I am so so so excited about this.



I already had a hunch a few weeks ago.



I mean, first it was the green mangoes and then this week, it was strawberries.



What else would it be, right?



At least I am assured that Christmas this year will be a very happy one.



And I guess we know who all my Holiday money will go to this year. Hehehe!



No, I am not pregnant. My sister is.



I am going to be an Aunt! Woohoo!!!

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Loves the beach, wishes she had more time and money to travel, recently got hooked to climbing mountains, reads anything she can get her hands on, frustrated writer, adores her 3-year-old Lhasa Apso, Tashi, constantly needs caffeine, wonders when she'll quit smoking, and will most likely die due to liver complications from drinking too much (if the cigarettes doesn't get to her lungs first). Can't live without accessories especially big, dangling earrings, shoe freak (aren't we all?), sucker for discovering hole-in-the-wall restaurants, will ingest anything spicy, enjoys giving and receiving massages, addicted to Friends, Sex and the City and CSI, goes gaga over kids, dreams of being alone with Jim Morrison and smoking a joint with Bob Marley. Would love to party with Gwen Stefani, shop with Patricia Field, write poetry with Maya Angelou and have Sting, Nelson Mandela, Mark Twain and Bono over for dinner.

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