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Wednesday, March 03, 2004

ON HUSBANDS AND MARRIAGE

I was supposed to blog about the reasons why I hate commuting in the Manila. I was on reason #2 when my married female officemates started talking to us about how much they love their children more than they love their husbands. They said that they would probably cry for only a day if their husbands leave them but they would feel really, really bad the day their children leave home or if, knock on wood, anything bad happens to their kids. All i could muster to say was..."Really?!?!". And one answered..."It's really different when you start having children." And all the while I thought they were happily married.

I think I understand what they're driving at but it doesn't mean I agree with them. Maybe the sparks in their marriage conked out and was replaced with more important things to worry about like bills to pay, tuition fees, work, etc. but I don't want to ever hear myself saying those things. Ever. When I get married, thinking that one member of my family is dispensable will never cross my mind. I never want to tell my husband that I can live without him. That if he wants to leave me, fine, just don't bring my beautiful children with you! What is the point of going through all the trouble of finding a church, spending for a reception, food, gowns and what have you when 10 years down the line, you can imagine going through your life without the one person you vowed to love and cherish, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worst, till death do you part? If that's how it's going to be, I'll just start my search for the hottest guy in the world, get him to have sex with me and get me pregnant and voila!, I've got a gorgeous kid! It's sad. Especially for a very hopeful single-but-attached woman like me. But I swear, I really don't want to end up like that.

No matter how hard you try to be optimistic about everything, there are just way too many cynics out there who will try to make you one of them. And i have only one thing to say: Hell No!!!

Bunny @ Wednesday, March 03, 2004

about moi

Loves the beach, wishes she had more time and money to travel, recently got hooked to climbing mountains, reads anything she can get her hands on, frustrated writer, adores her 3-year-old Lhasa Apso, Tashi, constantly needs caffeine, ~~wonders when she'll quit smoking~~, and will most likely die due to liver complications from drinking too much ~~(if the cigarettes doesn't get to her lungs first)~~. Can't live without accessories especially big, dangling earrings, shoe freak (aren't we all?), sucker for discovering hole-in-the-wall restaurants, will ingest anything spicy, enjoys giving and receiving massages, addicted to Friends, Sex and the City and CSI, goes gaga over kids, dreams of being alone with Jim Morrison and smoking a joint with Bob Marley. Would love to party with Gwen Stefani, shop with Patricia Field, write poetry with Maya Angelou and have Sting, Nelson Mandela, Mark Twain and Bono over for dinner.

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